Calling it Quits in the Golden Years America’s Booming Grey Divorce Rate

Marriage vows frequently include the phrase “till death do us part,” but for a growing share of Americans over 50, divorce papers are increasingly doing the parting instead. Over the past several decades, the U.S. divorce rate has dropped for younger adults but risen substantially for middle-aged and older adults. Some experts have dubbed it the “grey divorce revolution.” Read More

How Can We Divorce in a Challenging Housing Market?

Divorcing couples across New Jersey and Pennsylvania face immense housing complications in the current real estate climate. Higher interest rates make refinancing formerly low-rate mortgages an unattractive option that could significantly increase monthly payments. For example, a couple that currently holds a $300,000 mortgage at 2.5% would see their monthly payment jump from $1,265 to $1,951 if they refinanced at 7%. This is a 54% increase. Read More

Introducing Children of Divorce to a New Significant Other

Roseann Vanella from Advanced Mediation Solutions is joined by Madeleine DiLeonardo Licensed Professional, Nationally Certified Counselor and Executive Director at Mind, Body & Soul Counseling and in today’s video they discuss the topic of new significant others and when may be the appropriate time to introduce your children to them. Read More

How to Deal with Emotional Turbulence During Divorce Mediation

Divorce, often regarded as one of life’s most stressful experiences, presents a host of emotional challenges for the individuals involved. It can evoke a range of intense emotions such as anger, sadness, anxiety, guilt, and confusion. These emotions are often magnified due to the intricacies of disentangling shared lives and navigating new beginnings. Read More

Living Arrangements for Divorcing Parents: Nesting

Roseann Vanella from Advanced Mediation Solutions is joined by Madeleine DiLeonardo Licensed Professional, Nationally Certified Counselor and Executive Director at Mind, Body & Soul Counseling and in today’s video they discuss nesting. Co-parenting while sharing the same house,  known as nesting,  is a growing trend particularly because of an increased consciousness about the impact of a divorce on the kids. This parenting arrangement works best when co-parents are willing to work on themselves but also put the children first and they each take turns living in the marital home so that the children do not have to move out. From a therapeutic stand point, this is a helpful tool to cause the least disruption to the children’s lives as the couple is separating. Read More

Divorce: Should Children have a Voice in the Parenting Schedule

Roseann Vanella from Advanced Mediation Solutions is joined by Madeleine DiLeonardo Licensed Professional, Nationally Certified Counselor and Executive Director at Mind, Body & Soul Counseling and in today’s video they discuss when the appropriate age to allow children to have input on their lives and schedules when their parents are divorced. As each couple’s situation is unique, there is no direct answer as to when the time is “right”. That said, therapy is a great tool couples can utilize to work collaboratively with their children to bring them into a safe space where they feel like their opinions are heard and can feel comfortable enough to make important decisions as it pertains to their time and how it is spent. Read More

Your Divorce Agreement Should Reflect Your Family’s Unique Needs & Desires

During divorce mediation, I often see couples struggling with decisions they want to make if those decisions are creative and outside the societal “norm”. One of the many reasons I decided to become a divorce mediator was to help couples/families find their voice and define the rules of their divorce instead of settling for a solution that was not the best for them. Read More

Top 5 Mistakes Made by Parents When Divorcing

Roseann Vanella from Advanced Mediation Solutions is joined by Madeleine DiLeonardo Licensed Professional, Nationally Certified Counselor and Executive Director at Mind, Body & Soul Counseling  as they explore the top 5 mistakes made by parents when divorcing. Read More

Couples Therapy: Benefits Before, During & After Divorce

Roseann Vanella from Advanced Mediation Solutions is joined by Madeleine DiLeonardo Licensed Professional, Nationally Certified Counselor and Executive Director at Mind, Body & Soul Counseling  and they explore the benefits of therapy and how it is beneficial to anyone at any stage of divorce. Read More

5 Signs That It Is Time To End The Marriage

The decision to end your marriage is never an easy one to make. According to relationship experts, when you are considering divorce, it’s salient to objectively assess your own inner challenges, and not merely focus on what you think is wrong with your soon-to-be-ex spouse. Read More

Should We Stay Married for the Children?

There is a stigma that divorce may “damage” children and parents figure that they need to stay together for their children instead of separating. In today’s video Roseann Vanella, Professional Mediator and Founder of Advanced Mediation Solutions is joined by Madeleine DiLeonardo Licensed Professional, Nationally Certified Counselor and Executive Director at Mind, Body & Soul Counseling  and they explore the multiple resources a couple has when they are planning to separate so that the conflict between the parents can be worked out in a manner that will not negatively impact the children. Read More

Who Gets The Custody Of Pets In a Divorce?

Pets are an integral part of a family, so no wonder when a couple is contemplating a divorce, the fate of the beloved pet can become an emotionally charged issue. It’s best to deal with this sensitive issue with the help of a professional mediator who can facilitate a fair resolution while taking into account the sensitivities of both parties who want to keep the custody of the family pet. Read More

How Priorities Change When People Divorce After One, Two or Three Decades of Marriage

Many people want to know whether considerations and priorities change if they plan to divorce after 10, 20, or 30 years of marriage. According to seasoned divorce mediators, while the timing of a divorce does not necessarily make it easier or more difficult, the priorities may differ at different stages. Read More

Nesting Divorce: When Co-Parents Rotate In And Out Of The Home

When you are considering a divorce, it is a reasonable question to ask whether you could stay in the same home as your ex. Co-parenting while sharing the same house is a growing trend particularly because of an increased consciousness about the impact of a divorce on the kids. Read More

Things to Consider When Divorce Involves Children With Special Needs

Divorce is never easy for anyone. Breaking off what you once thought might be a lifetime commitment can be painfully difficult. The situation can get even more complicated if you have children with special needs. Regardless of how you and your spouse feel about the divorce, it is important to make sure your children are not hurt in the process. Read More

How to Discuss a Prenup With Your Soon-to-be Spouse?

The trend of prenuptial agreements is on the rise because of a growing acceptance of its usefulness, especially among millennials and Generation Z. However, according to mediation experts, this favorable trend does not make requesting your partner to sign a prenup any easier. Here are some insights from seasoned mediators about how to approach your soon-to-be spouse about signing an equitable and fair prenuptial agreement. Read More

LGBTQ Couples And Divorce Trends

As the number of LGBTQ marriages has significantly increased in recent years, the number of divorces has also gone up. Undoubtedly, LGBTQ couples deal with almost all the same types of concerns and challenges that heterosexual couples face. Therefore, a similar rate of marital discord and divorce among LGBTQ couples should come as no surprise. Here are some of the LGBTQ divorce trends that experienced mediators point out. Read More