Divorce, The Tipping Point

divorce the tipping point

11 Reasons….

According to Malcom Gladwell’s book with the same title, “The Tipping Point is that magic moment when an idea, trend, or social behavior crosses a threshold, tips, and spreads like wildfire.” I often ask clients what was their tipping point that ended their marriage and each answer is unique.

  1. “I decided I’d had enough when I arrived at the house and found a woman’s shoe in my bedroom.”
  2. “I walked 4.8 miles home in the dark because I decided there was no way I could spend another evening having dinner with him.”
  3. “When I knew he was coming home from rehab and I didn’t dare jeopardize the ‘safe house’ I had created in his absence.”
  4. “When I found the letter in his briefcase from his girlfriend and she referred to me as ‘the lunatic wife’.”
  5. “When I finally decided that three strikes were enough and I wasn’t moving back in. It seems to work well in baseball.”
  6.   “I knew when I had coffee with him and he reiterated that he hadn’t loved me in 8 years.”
  7. “I decided that my husband and his mistress were void of shame when she spent most of the evening by his side at an office function. I was tired of having my nose rubbed in it.”
  8. “When my husband went MIA for 6 hours while he was out of town for business, I knew that he was not deep in negotiations.”
  9. “I finally knew when his girlfriend’s husband called to tell me they were having dinner together.”
  10. “He told me that the affair that ended 5 years ago had, in fact, not ended.”
  11. “I found myself marking the bottles in the liquor cabinet and decided that I didn’t want to spend my golden years with an alcoholic.”

Most marriages don’t end on the amicable note that we’re lead to believe. There’s a tipping point that’s experienced by one or both parties. A tipping point often spreads like wildfire.

It’s recommended that your divorce not start out like wildfire. Even though you experience a tipping point to mark the end of your marriage, be thoughtful on your approach. Leave the great ideas to spread like wildfire.

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About Sheila Brennan

There are few events in one’s life that impact you financially, socially, emotionally and legally. Effective communication and negotiation skills are imperative to a good outcome. Sheila Brennan, Divorce Coach, serves as your guide and advocate through the divorce process. Take complete ownership - this is your divorce! www.brennandivorcecoach.com

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