EFT, Tapping Through Life Transitions


by Jontie Hays~We have often discussed the inevitability of life transitions and the many emotions that can arise during these times. Several of the emotions we experience can feel quite uncomfortable. EFT can help guide through these transitions.

Fear and anxiety of the unknown, shifting comfort zones and assimilating changes to create a “new normal” for ourselves can  interfere with our ability to stay focused on the here and now.

Emotions such as fear and anxiety  can create a stress response in the body which  in turn can signal the   flight or flight center in the brain AKA the amygdala.

What does this have to do with life transitions?

For optimal health, our bodies should only experience short durations and spurts of fight or flight and most life transitions are not always short in duration and rarely happen is short spurts.  Chronic stress can be very detrimental to our bodies and have long lasting consequences to our health and well being.

So what the heck are we supposed to do?

In my first FamilyAffaires.com article, Transition and Infinite Potential, we  established life is transition and that means we can’t take transitions out of our lives, BUT we can change our thoughts about what we are going through and therefore change the emotions that subsequently occur.

Thought always precedes emotion and the body follows the emotion.

There is a technique in Energy Medicine called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).  EFT is s a type of Meridian Tapping that combines ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology.

By stimulating specific acupuncture points on the body,  calming signals are released which deactivate the amygdala. While in the midst of a powerful emotion such as fear, the tapping itself causes the brain to receive opposing messages! These points are the  meaty part of the hand below the pinky (use a karate chop motion with the other hand), the inner end of the of the eyebrows closest to the nose, the outside of the eyes, under the eyes on the orbital bone, directly under the nose and under the bottom lip, underneath the collarbone, underneath your armpit and crown of the head.

Through tapping these points, your brain is literally trained to feel calm when experiencing a stress stimulus!

The basis of the technique is to allow ourselves to fully experience the emotion at the same time as we tap. As we allow ourselves to go to our worst fears underlying the emotion we are ready to go….

Start with a set up statement and be specific about your concern. “Even though I am afraid i will lose my job, I fully and completely accept and honor my feelings. Continue with these statements and let them evolve as deeper emotions  arise.

” Even though I’m afraid I will lose my home I deeply accept and honor my feelings”

Using your finger tips gently tap the each point while reciting your feelings statements.
Continue to repeat one to two rounds, then incorporate a positive affirmation such as, ” It is okay to release my fear, I am capable and will be okay” Continue to repeat until your discomfort level more tolerable and manageable if not gone completely.

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About Jontie Hays

Jontie Hays  is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. She graduated from Florida State University in 1993. As a private practitioner, she specializes in many areas including: Child sexual abuse, trauma, depression, anxiety, women’s health, couples and family counseling. She also is Supreme Court certified in family mediation and serves as a consultant to an international company, which provides onsite crisis response to the corporate community. She has served as an expert witness in family litigation involving children. She is a dedicated to assisting others in reaching their highest and most authentic selves. Through the use of integrative approach, Jontie embraces an attitude towards the practice of psychotherapy that affirms the inherent value of each individual. It is a unifying psychotherapy that responds appropriately and effectively to the person at the affective, behavioral, cognitive, and physiological levels of functioning, and addresses as well the spiritual dimension of life  St. Augustine, Florida is home to Jontie and her family. She has been married to her wonderful, handsome husband Jim for 22 years. They share two beautiful children Jackson and Jade.

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  1. pspaulasusan

    Reading your article reminds me of how many wonderful techniques/ styles of working we have to offer our troubled clients. Kudos to you for venturing into energy medicine. I have been doing EMDR (Eye Movement and Desensitization and Reprocessing) since 1991. And, I teach my clients EFT as a technique they can use on their own. In the hands of competent clinicians, we can change the quality of their lives and empower them to modulate their own painful experiences. Thanks for the article.


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