How to Get Good Divorce Advice?

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Is Your Financial Advisor a Keeper?

Good divorce advice is necessary when planning your future. When a couple is divorcing, there are several professionals that should be part of the team to assist in the transition to the next phase of life. From a financial perspective, there may be tax implications, employee benefits, retirement plans, investments, insurance, real estate, etc. that need to handled and distributed. The finances can quickly become convoluted. You may find yourself in over your head; and your attorney may be in the same position.

But how do you find a financial advisor you trust? How do you find a financial advisor who is qualified to be part of your team? How can you differentiate between the credentials? How important is it to do that when you’re hiring a financial advisor?

More than a decade ago, I was lucky enough to hire my financial advisor. Before the divorce became final, the marital home was sold and the proceeds divided between the parties. Since I wasn’t sure where I wanted to live, I had him “hold” my money before I purchased a post marital home. It was then that we began the conversations about the future, my financial goals, my fears and concerns, and investment options to create the ideal future.

His guidance was instrumental in the final divorce settlement. Each time an offer was presented, I would call him and he would run it through the model and compare it to the previous offer. How did the change impact my bottom line? I would return with a tweak here and there until the settlement resonated with me. It was a taxing experience made less grueling by the CFO of my team. The final hours were fatiguing when options and offers were being placed on the table and removed just as quickly.

I didn’t fully decipher his many credentials listed as part of his signature on emails. What I knew was that he was on my side. What I recognized was that he presented me with options and solutions he believed would be the best for my situation. We developed a relationship based on being able to talk to one another, trusting his advice, pulling me in when necessary and approving a discretionary investment even when he considered it imprudent.

A dozen years later, I refer to him as my “financial husband” and really don’t do anything without getting his thoughts and of course, his opinion. My daughter once asked me why I couldn’t just buy a car without asking Mr. Financial Advisor?  I’ve asked him a handful of times and his answer is consistently “probably not a good idea now.” So I drive around town in my 11 year old car. I know one of these times when I find a car that I love and send him a text with a picture, he’ll give me the nod. But until then, I know he’s on my side, aware of my goals, knows the bottom line every month and wants me to feel safe, secure and confident.

That’s why I know my financial advisor is a keeper!

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About Sheila Brennan

There are few events in one’s life that impact you financially, socially, emotionally and legally. Effective communication and negotiation skills are imperative to a good outcome. Sheila Brennan, Divorce Coach, serves as your guide and advocate through the divorce process. Take complete ownership - this is your divorce!

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