How Did You Do with 2013 Resolutions?

by Michael Bloom~
Is it really possible that we are in the final weeks of 2013? Time has a way of flying by. So, how have you done with those New Year’s resolutions that you set at the beginning of this year?

If you achieved or en route to achieve everything you resolved for 2013, congratulations! Give yourself a pat on the back. If you achieved some of your resolutions or made a little bit of progress, take a moment to reflect and give yourself credit for what you have accomplished. It is important to recognize any and all progress.

If, like most people, you achieved or made little progress with your resolutions, do not stress or become sad. This is understandable because most caregivers are laser focused on supporting the complex needs of loved ones while leaving themselves on the back burner. Each and every day (not just on January 1st) you have the ability to chart a new course on a regret-free road.

Let’s clarify a few things about the content of resolutions. Many of us tend to think of resolutions as rigid solutions that result in an all-or-nothing, pass-or-fail finality. Resolutions can be much more fluid than that. A resolution is simply another attempt to achieve a new milestone or solve a problem by approaching something in a new light or from a different angle. If our proposed resolution does not work, all we have to do is re-calibrate and resolve it again rather than giving up and possibly downing oneself as a failure. This flexibility is especially important for caregivers as the support journey for loved ones can hit unexpected peaks and valleys during the course of aging, illness, or disability.

Resolutions are more likely to be achieved if they do not include those pesty “should statements.” Examples of traditional “should” resolutions include – “I should stop spending so much money. I should lose weight. I should stop smoking.” While some or all of these things may be true for us, they really do not belong on our Resolutions’ list. The key is to resolve to do what we truly believe we are ready and willing to change right now. When drafting a resolution, block out the opinions of others. Even more importantly, block out the “should” statements from your own voice as this will only give your inner critic more power in reminding you that you are not good enough.

The ultimate purpose of implementing a resolution is to help us to live a deliberate life, one where we are the cause of our life, rather than living at the effect of it. Take a deep breath and imagine the kind of person you would like to be and the life you would like to live. List positive and measurable resolutions that may be new skills you would like to acquire, new experiences you desire to have, or new qualities you would like to develop. You don’t need to wait until January 2014 to create and implement new resolutions. This strategy is available to you at any time of the year. Developing resolutions that you find motivating will put you on a path to the life of abundance and satisfaction that you so richly deserve for the remainder of 2013 and beyond.

Energetically yours,

Michael Bloom


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About Michael Bloom

Since 2011, Certified Professional Coach and Caregiving Without Regret™ Expert A. Michael Bloom has helped to revitalize the careers of hundreds of family and professional caregivers with practical, tactical soul-saving coping strategies and support them in saving lives. With a wealth of practical expertise as both a family and professional caregiver, Michael serves as a welcome and sought-after catalyst to guide caregivers and health and human services leaders to stay energized and committed to work that has never been more important or vital than it is today. Great information and resources are available at

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