Cue the music….
(Riff Raff) It’s astounding. Time is fleeting. Madness takes it’s toll…
(Riff Raff) But listen closely…
(Magenta) Not for very much longer…
(Riff Raff) I’ve got to keep control. I remember doing the Time Warp. Drinking those moments when The blackness would hit me.
(Riff Raff & Magenta) And the void would be calling.
(All) Let’s do the Resolution Warp again….Let’s do the Resolution Warp again.
….Fade the music
Why? Cause it is the beginning of the year.
Time for those pesky resolutions which can seem like a bad trip in the time warp. The ultimate purpose for implementing a resolution is to help us to live a more deliberate life and to stop living at the effect of it.
Let’s clarify a few things about the content of resolutions. Many of us tend to think of resolutions as rigid solutions that result in an all-or-nothing, pass-or-fail finality. Resolutions can be much more fluid than that. A resolution is simply another attempt to achieve a new milestone or solve a problem by approaching something in a new light or from a different angle.
If our proposed resolution does not work, all we have to do is re-calibrate and resolve it again rather than giving up in failure. This flexibility is especially important for caregivers as the support journey for loved ones can hit unexpected peaks and valleys during the course of aging, illness, or disability.
Resolutions are much more likely to be achieved if they do not include “should statements.” Examples of traditional “should” resolutions include – “I should stop spending so much money. I should lose weight. I should stop smoking.” While some or all of these things may be true for us, they really do not belong on our Resolutions’ list.
The key is to resolve to do what we truly believe we are ready and willing to change right now. When drafting a resolution, block out the opinions of others. Even more importantly, block out the “should” statements from your own voice as this will only give your inner critic more power in reminding you that you are not good enough.
Take a deep breath and imagine the kind of person you would like to be and the life you would like to live. List positive and measurable resolutions that may be new skills you would like to acquire, new experiences you desire to have, or new qualities you would like to develop.
Developing resolutions that you find motivating will put you on a path to the life of abundance and satisfaction that you so richly deserve in 2015. Let’s do the resolution warp again – the time to thrive is now!