Moms Know Their Children Best

Moms know children

Trust Your Judgment

Who are the best people to identify problems in children early? Pediatricians? Psychologists? Neurologists? Teachers?

Nope, in my opinion, it’s the moms.

They know what’s going on with their child and their judgment is rarely wrong.

Over the years as parents have come in to consult with me about their children’s struggling, 99% of the time when the mom thinks something is wrong with her child, there is something there.

Yet often when the moms raise the issue with a professional they frequently hear messages like the following:

  • “You know how boys are.”
  • “He’s a late bloomer.”
  • “You’re worrying too much.”
  • “We need to wait until third grade to see what’s going on.”

Too often, the moms accept these messages and go against their intuition.

Tonight, I had a mom say, “In my heart, I know he’s struggling and something is going on, even though I keep hearing from others that I’m worrying needlessly. Look, where there’s smoke there’s fire. I know my kid is struggling. He’s in third grade and I keep getting put off. I know I need to do something.”

Listening to her talk about her concerns, I knew she was correct.

Research in early reading difficulty tells us an important truth – there is no purpose in waiting.

At the first sign of concern, it’s not time to panic, but to take an effective action. The effective action may involve paying for something like tutoring, but if you can swing it, then you are taking an action. You are not waiting for approval while things may be getting worse.

Takeaway Point

Listen to yourselves, moms. You know what’s going on with your child. If you think something is going on, odds are you are correct.

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About Dr. Richard Selznick

Dr. Richard Selznick is a psychologist, nationally certified school psychologist, assistant professor of pediatrics and school consultant. Dr. Selznick is the Director of the Cooper Learning Center, a Division of the Department of Pediatrics/ Cooper University Healthcare. The author of two books, The Shut-Down Learner: Helping Your Academically Discouraged Child and the more recently published School Struggles: A Guide To Your Shut-Down Learner’s Success, Dr. Selznick has presented to parents and educators internationally, as far as Dubai and Abu Dhabi and throughout the United States. Learn more about Dr. Selznick at

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