Speak with the (Therapy) Chef before Ordering from the Menu

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There are countless varieties of therapy models and most have believers convinced one type is better than another.

Research of a few decades ago concluded that the key factors in therapy’s typical gains of more confidence, less stress, more self-trust and happiness, are due to the quality of the specific relationship between patient and therapist, not the specific therapy model utilized.

The benefits of therapy are primarily based in whether or not and how you attach to your therapist.

The benefits of therapy are only secondarily based in the modality of the therapy.

Therefore, when deciding which therapy and with whom you’d like to start, Step One is selecting a therapist with whom you feel compatible.

Just as many menus offer similar meal items which taste different from restaurant to restaurant depending on the chef who prepares the food, your therapy will satisfy based on who offers your therapy “meal”.

For example, my protocol is to address the person’s foundational emotional reasoning. I often think “why” until the depth within someone opens on a particular dynamic or situation.

My therapy encourages my patient to examine details in their assumptions about themselves and others.

I believe this dissolves outdated beliefs about self and other so new ones are free to develop.
This type of therapy has a formal name, “systems/relational therapy”

Some people prefer a predominantly nurturing therapist because this quality is insufficient in the person’s realtime life.
This type of therapy is called, “supportive”.

Some people like instructional therapy which gives “tools”, “strategies”, and assigns worksheet “homework” to design a visual or theoretical set of priorities related to the presenting problem, which therapist and patient talk over during a session.
This type of therapy is part of CBT and DBT.

Whether any of these or others you read or otherwise learn about seem like the right therapy modality for you, remember to first talk with the one who will be “cooking” for you.

Once you decide on a chef whom you like, the meal is almost guaranteed to satisfy!

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About Sherry Katz

Sherry Katz, LCSW is primarily a couples therapist who counsels partners and individuals of all adult ages, in relieving tension and unhappiness in their relationships. The spectrum of care in her practice includes recuperating from infidelity, clarifying and strengthening trust and communication, restoring and developing common ground for a relationship. Ms. Katz has a secondary practice interest in helping family members align themselves in response to caring for elderly parents, especially a parent who has Alzheimer's Disease.Old Stories, New Views Family Therapy

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