A Road Out From Self-Sabotage
Giving so greatly to another person that one outcome for the giver is emotional harm or damage, is one example of self-sabotage. Despite originating in sincere …
How Too Much Generosity Weakens You and Your Relationship
“Generosity” has so many positive connotations it is hard to imagine the term as an action which may damage either the giver or receiver of someone’s …
The Many Faces of Grief, Part 3 Dying Without Regrets – The Family
My Mother: After my father suffered a moderate stroke, my mother stepped into her nine year role as his selfless caregiver. Along with compromising his …
The Many Faces of Grief, Part II
As I wrote in The Many faces of Grief in October, my husband Ted’s 54 yo son Don died, not completely unexpectedly, September 28, 2018. We were not shocked …
How Family Therapy Helps People
Since a good amount of the difficulty and tension we feel about ourselves and within our interactions with others is rooted in qualities which developed during …
The Holidays Brings an Opportunity to Discuss Family Matters
Discussing financial and estate planning with Mom and Dad during the Holidays might sound cold. Yet, I have read article after article that recommends that as …
The Gift of Yourself for the Holidays
The holiday conflicts we often experience have to do with people and things that don’t fit in with our way of thinking or being. Yet we all want to belong …
Deepening the Relationship with Our Adult Children
A Year of Movies with My Older Son Parents, educators, and counselors are always looking for ways to help children and teens open up and have meaningful …
Helping Families in Denial About Dementia
Three Real Examples that Worked You are the daughter or son who “gets it”. Not only is your parent – most likely your mom – experiencing some physical …
Elder-Care Mediators: When It’s Harder to Talk the Talk
We have all heard the phrase, “Don’t talk the talk if you can’t walk the walk.” But what happens when talking the talk is so hard that …