Enthusiastically smiling with anticipation of Valentine’s Day has been marketed to us as the ideal and only way to recognize partner love in our lives.
In reality there is variety and nuance in the condition of our love relationships and each person’s love relationship merits acknowledgement and honor.
For readers who face significant changes in their relationship due to a partner’s passing on or to the onset of disease or severe health related matters, the value and meaning of your love does not necessarily change. Physical limitations of the body affect access to our beloved, not necessarily whether we love or do not love them.
If you’re someone for whom the notion of Valentine’s Day includes fresh memories of being either the giver or receiver of significant disappointment or ending of your relationship, then consider to use the time around Valentine’s Day to know more of why your relationship didn’t survive as long as you may have hoped.
The more truthful with yourself as to how you responsibly delivered and handled both your own and the other person’s dreams for the relationship, the easier your time to accept the naturalness of a relationship’s end. You’ll also increase your chance to attract a more suitable partner who aligns with you.
What if you’d like to be in a relationship and Valentine’s Day reminds you very strongly that you’re not in one?
Then appreciate this meditative period to know who you are and with whom you’d like to be. Clear the clutter of fears, self-doubts, inhibited and injured trust to love, while you are on your own. This way you avoid to step into what you already know will not be good for you.
Acceptance, appreciation, and patience for your particular love condition are the key mindsets to feel good and strong enough to smile this Valentine’s Day and create any changes you’d like to make in your relationship before next Valentine’s Day!