4 Tips to Surviving Family Holiday Gatherings

Surviving the Family Holidays

Are you familiar with the, “here we go again”, feeling when anticipating surviving family holiday gatherings?

Do you imagine another year of predictable disappointment, hoping maybe this year a few of the interaction tensions of the past decade will not appear, and nevertheless watching as these unfold?

There is a way for you to have a happy time at holiday events even while interactions around you may be tense and unwelcome.

Here are some guidelines for creating best possible memories of Holiday Season 2014.

1. Know What to Reasonably Expect from Family Gatherings
Often, anticipating the reality of holiday parties is overlooked in exchange for yearning to feel ideally connected to others, know the soft feeling inspired by Holiday music, or relive the romanticized memories of childhood Holiday times.

2. Identify Your Own Wishes
Be truthful with yourself about what you do and do not like about an upcoming family event. By having an honest inner dialogue you are connecting with and honoring yourself.
This will help strengthen your ability to move gracefully through the areas which displease or upset you.

3. Plan and Rehearse for Your Happiness
Develop a few strategies for handling what typically are frustrating or sad moments or observations in holiday family events. A few rehearsed responses to typically painful interactions may decrease your actual involvement.
You’d be gaining some time and energy to address the emotional pain which does arise.

4. Imagine Telling Holiday 2014 Stories on July 4 2015
What you remember of what was possible, what you expected, how you moved through and prioritized your wishes for happy memories from 2014, will be in your emotional brain for many years.
Picture now what it is you’d like to fondly recall next Summer about this Holiday Season. You will certainly increase the likelihood of being able or close to, manifest this as December 2014 unfolds.

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About Sherry Katz

Sherry Katz, LCSW is primarily a couples therapist who counsels partners and individuals of all adult ages, in relieving tension and unhappiness in their relationships. The spectrum of care in her practice includes recuperating from infidelity, clarifying and strengthening trust and communication, restoring and developing common ground for a relationship. Ms. Katz has a secondary practice interest in helping family members align themselves in response to caring for elderly parents, especially a parent who has Alzheimer's Disease.Old Stories, New Views Family Therapy

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