Can Anger Be a Healthy Emotion? Part 2


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How Therapy Can Clarify and Diminish The Negative Aspects of Long-Held Anger

There are many types of therapy available.

Cognitive/Behavioral Therapy will help you identify and take steps to change your patterns.

Psychodynamic Therapy essentially allows for looking into yourself through the relationship you create with the therapist.

Psychodrama is a style which gives you the opportunity to act out the pieces of your anger and helps you, through role play, to learn different ways of expression.

Energy Psychologies such as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Heart Assisted Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)…  Having incorporated these styles of helping in my way of working with people, I find that using a bit of each with the major component being EMDR, uncovers the origins of anger and truly changes the trigger reactions that once dominated the way the client approached their feelings  I see this as deep healing of old wounds as well as an efficient way of dealing with current issues of anger.

Mindfulness is a way to deeply calm yourself and be present with the ability to focus and speak from your center, kindly.

Sometimes medication, yoga, meditation might be suggested – whatever best helps the client move into a healthy way of living.

I find as an eclectic therapist, a mix of what fits for the particular client will bring the best results.

Successful counseling for clarification and change will help establish the ability to be the person you would choose to be, as opposed to reacting in inefficient and hurtful ways.

What to Do in the Meantime

  • Take a deep breath filling your lungs and then let the air out through your mouth very slowly.
  • Ask yourself, what might be motivating the other person’s reaction or behavior?  Come from curiosity and ask.
  • Be open to listening and truly hearing them.
  • Then have empathy and acceptance for their right to see things their way,
  • Request that your view be considered.

If it doesn’t work, then you can still feel good about the way you’ve handled you.

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About Paula Susan

Paula Susan, MSW, LCSW, Masters in Clinical Social Work & Psychology; specialist in Trauma and Relationships since 1982. In 1991, I integrated the powerfully transformative process of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). Research demonstrates that it facilitates life-altering changes more efficiently and effectively than talk therapy alone. I teach skills such as communication and anxiety relief to improve connection with others. Over the decades, I’ve come to respect how much damage even small traumatic experiences inflict on our core beliefs about ourselves and the world around us. I consider it a privilege to help my clients understand and change what has undermined their happiness and their relationships. I do it with warmth, integrity, humor, and profound respect for those who care about the quality of this small piece of time we have on

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