Feel Better about Caring for Your Aging Parent

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You’ve worked hard to get to where you are – a successful career, a happy family, and a great social life. You’re in control of your future; well, at least you were in control. But now you find yourself caring for your aging parent.

You feel like it’s your obligation but you didn’t sign up for this added duty. However, when you don’t help, you feel guilty. When you do help, it’s never enough or it’s not right. Everybody wants a piece of you, and you’re feeling overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted.

Because you’re always prioritizing your parent first, your work is suffering and your friends don’t call anymore. Right before your eyes, your lifestyle and your plans for the future are starting to slip away. Although you love your parent, you are starting to feel resentment and even some anger.

Being in a constant reactive mode creates additional feelings of despair and weakness which ultimately lead to failure. To be successful and survive, you must find a way to turn the tide, take control, and get out of chaos.

However, you don’t know what you’re doing. You didn’t study “Parent Care” in college so your proficiency is somewhat lacking, to say the least. In order to improve your skills, you must self-educate and put systems in place that empower you to stay in control and out of chaos.

Great news: millions of adult children have been down this road before you. You are not alone. In fact, millions are successfully caring for an aging parent right now. How? Through education and planning, they have created support systems and techniques to manage the care of their loved one.

You’ve already started the initial step of self-education because, after all, you are reading this article. As you continue to learn, you will start to see the importance of planning. You know from your job that having a plan is essential to the success of any project.

Why would this, arguably your most complicated project, be any different? So of course, successful caregiving also requires a plan.

In order to take control and feel better, putting a plan in place is essential. A good plan will enable you to have the information you need at your fingertips. This will result in better coordination with others and better decision making on your part.

As you start putting together a  plan of care, you will start to feel the burden of caregiving lift, and eventually you will find comfort in knowing you are providing the best care for your parent.

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About Mike Good

Mike Good is founder of Together in This an online community helping family members caring for someone with Alzheimer’s. Through short, informative articles and easy-to-use tools, such as the Introductory Guide to Alzheimer’s, he helps them take control and have peace-of-mind they are doing the right things.

6 thoughts on “Feel Better about Caring for Your Aging Parent

  1. Marshall

    Mike – congratulations on another great article about how to understand and learn solutions to what people are facing and many more will be facing the future. You help people see solutions and in a compelling way they can act on them. I so wish I had this information when I was first faced with caring for my mom and dad.


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